

We continue to explore the different types of Emotional Manipulators. Learn how to recognise these archetypes in yourself and in others to begin to change behavior and to weed out destructive influences in your life.
“I am never wrong. I hate it when people cannot admit fault.”
The Projector is the pot who loves to call the kettle black. They are hypocritical and incapable of recognising fault in themselves. They are typically hyper-defensive and will blame others for their flaws or shortcomings. Avoiding accountability at any cost, Projectors will relentlessly find ways to avoid looking in the mirror or will cast blame outward to justify themselves. They appear extremely hateful toward others but in truth are filled with self-loathing.
“But that’s not what I heard you say…Perhaps I misunderstood.”
Popularity is extremely important to this kind of manipulator, and they will appear outwardly very warm and friendly. In actuality, they are incredibly superficial and will foster closeness with others in order to gather information. Mis-interpreters will twist the truth or use lies combined with half-truths to gain control and to manipulate others.
“It’s just harmless flirting. It’s not my fault if they take it seriously.”
Extremely superficial and vain, they will flirt with anyone to get what they want. They are self-centered and attention seeking, and will use sex and their sexuality to claw their way into peoples’ lives and to achieve their goals. Flirts are often thrilled by breaking people apart and causing rifts, and tend to have no qualms bragging about the path of destruction they may have left behind them.
“If you don’t agree with me we’re going to have a serious problem. Do you want me to get angry!?”
Intimidation is their most powerful tool. Threats, bullying and aggression are used to get their way. Iron Fists have a strong sense of superiority and lack of regard for others, viewing their victims as pawns or obstacles in their lives.
This emotional manipulator is resourceful and will use a combination of the afore mentioned tactics to get their way. They do not give up and will use any approach or attack to control their victim.